![]() They sure don’t show that in the movies, do they? Sometimes it’s a few tears, other times it’s sobbing. In my personal experience, my body responds with a euphoria so strong that tears well up in my eyes and I bury my head into my partners chest. When I think of having an orgasm, I think of crying - known as crymaxing, something I’ve talked about once before. ![]() It’s hard to describe the tingles, the differing effects, the numbness, the euphoria. It’s never been all over my body, but I’ve had some that make my lower body shake.” – MaryEllen I quickly found that words don’t do the experience justice. When I first began writing this piece, I reached out to people I knew personally to describe their orgasm. While your body is working hard to make you feel good, your brain is also releasing a huge dose of oxytocin and dopamine which contribute to feelings of closeness, empathy, and happiness. Some people yell and scream and convulse, but many don’t.”ĭuring an orgasm, genital muscles will contract, heart rate will increase, and your genitals fill with blood. What you see in porn doesn’t necessarily reflect real-life orgasms. Some people lose control and others simply exhale deeply. O’Reilly describes the nuances of an orgasm even further, saying, “For some people, an orgasm is the ultimate experience of pleasure. We’re unique, our reactions vary, and most importantly, not everyone is a screamer. When asked to describe orgasm, the responses vary wildly.”Įveryone’s body response is different. Jess O’Reilly explains, “Even a universal definition for orgasm can’t be agreed upon, as our subjective experiences don’t always align with scientific conclusions. But people with a clitoris have a subtler reaction that isn’t always fluid (unless you’re a squirter), and as a result, many feel pressured to overenhance their feelings during sex.īut that doesn’t mean everyone needs to follow this formula or react in any one way at all. Not everyone experiences them but it’s worth it to experiment on your own and find out what works for your body.Īfter all, it’s easy to tell when someone with a penis has an orgasm. Cue the history of “faking it” in order to please our partners.įor many people, orgasms are rather elusive. The pressure to perform can be rooted in a toxic idea that women and people with clitorises and vaginas must “prove” to our partners that we came. The most popular descriptor? “Like fireworks.”īut we forget that on the screens, especially the small ones (pornography), an orgasm is often performative. It usually involves squealing, screaming, and “earth-shattering” explosions -dramatic and loud. If we just listen to movies, songs, and book stereotypes, there’s only one way of having an orgasm.
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